The Power of Play: How Video Games Can Build Connection in Families

In a world where technology is omnipresent, finding ways to connect with our children can sometimes feel challenging, especially when it comes to video games. However, embracing play—especially in the realm of video games—can be a powerful tool for fostering deeper relationships within the family. During a free talk on August 22, 2024, Mama Mavel talks about the power of play, the barriers to play, and provides some practical tips for playing video games with your kids.

Why Play Matters

Play isn't just a fun activity; it's essential for emotional well-being. Just as laughter relieves stress, play, especially when it involves laughter, helps dissolve power struggles and builds stronger connections. Children, regardless of their age, crave connection, approval, and attention from their parents. They want to be in good terms and have a strong bond with you, and play is one of the best ways to achieve that.

Barriers to Play

For many parents, especially moms, playing video games with their kids can be daunting. Whether it's due to time pressure, past experiences, or simply not being good at video games, these barriers can make it difficult to engage. Additionally, sensory issues can arise, as video games can be overwhelming with their sounds and visuals. It's important to acknowledge these challenges and understand that it's okay to struggle with play.

Shifting the Mindset Around Video Games

The common perception that video games are bad for children isn't entirely accurate. Research from Carnegie Mellon shows that the difference between playing house and playing Minecraft is simply the medium, not the play itself. Video games can have numerous benefits, such as improving mental, social, and even physical health. The key is connection—joining our children in their gaming world can transform the experience into something positive and meaningful.

Embracing the Role of a Beginner

One of the most effective ways to connect with your child through video games is by embracing your role as a beginner. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but allowing your child to be the expert and guide you through the game can be incredibly rewarding for both of you. This shift in dynamics not only fosters a deeper connection but also brings laughter and lightness to the experience.

Practical Tips for Engaging in Play

1. Ask Questions: Show curiosity about the game. Let your child explain the mechanics, characters, and strategies. This not only boosts their confidence but also strengthens your bond.

2. Parallel Play: Sometimes, playing side by side, even if you’re in different games, can be a way to connect. Encourage each other and share tips as you go.

3. Take the Less Powerful Role: Allow your child to teach you. Whether it’s in a racing game like Mario Kart or a complex adventure in Minecraft, let them take the lead.

Final Thoughts

Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to engage with your child in play. Whether it’s a few minutes of Candy Crush or a deep dive into Minecraft, what matters is the connection you build. Let go of the “shoulds” and focus on what works for your family. Play is a powerful tool to dissolve tension, build trust, and, most importantly, have fun together.

For more insights and resources on healthy gaming and tech habits in families, explore Mama Mavel’s classes and writings.

You can find the video of the talk also on YouTube.